Loving Language

English: Peace, Love and Increase

English: Peace, Love and Increase (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

Since the Sandy Hook shootings blame has been passed around like a hot potato. Some of the more extreme elements of the religious right have blamed the absence of God in our public schools. I won’t address the various problems with that assertion here, I have elsewhere. Others have blamed the ready availability of guns, a not all together illogical conclusion. Some others, mostly those that would defend their right to bear arms, have turned the conversation into a discussion over violence in movies, TV and video games. This is also not entirely without merit, though on that issue I would like to paraphrase the creators of Penny Arcade: “it is a strange patriot that would sacrifice the first amendment to preserve the second.” Continue reading

Creating Mosaics: Where Do We Go From Here

Geometric arabesque tiling on the underside of...

Geometric arabesque tiling on the underside of the dome of the Tomb of Hafez in Shiraz. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It is all well and good to showcase different cultures on this blog, but if I am going to be true to its title I better get to actually creating some mosaics. I have to admit I don’t have very much practical knowledge or skills where this is concerned. Continue reading

Article 27

(1) Everyone has the right to freely participate in the cultural life of the community, to enjoy the arts and to share in scientific advancement and its benefits. (2) Everyone has the right to the protection of the moral and material interests resulting from any scientific, literary or artistic production of which he is the author.

I know the first clause of this Article will seem alien to so many people. You may ask why we even need to mention this. After all, there are some people in the world that the only thing they have is the cultural life of their community, and this is true. However there have been many instances of one culture trying to suppress another, think of what Europeans did to the natives of North America, or Australia, or Africa, or… wow, um yeah, everyone really.

All lefty snarkiness aside though, this was written at a time when communist dictators were trying to quash the very idea of culture. They turned generations of tradition on their head simply because they thought all tradition was bad.  This is kind of disturbing because to me culture, be it art, music, poetry, dance, food or what have you, is what separates us from other animals. It is what makes being human special. Without it, we are just existing, not living.

I think back on what has been lost, especially the past century and a half of empire and I shake my head. So much beauty gone and for what? A burning need to feel superior because of the way we hold a fork, or how we express our love for this world, or simply to get all of our ducks in a row. I also find myself grateful for those that never gave up and never gave in. The Ukrainians, the Plains Indians of North America, the Polynesians, the Bantu speaking people of sub Saharan Africa. They have had mixed success, but their cultures, and those of a few others, will not be forgotten because they refused to completely give up their identity, sometimes in the face of brutal violence.

We need this now more than ever. I write this as I sit in Starbucks, partaking of (as much as I enjoy the coffee) our bland, homogeneous culture. America has lost a lot of its color, and the sad part is, we just kind of drifted into that. We make much ado of our slight regional differences, but really, when push comes to shove, we consume the same mass processed food, drink and music. Maybe it’s easier that way, but don’t forget to occasionally hit your museum, eat some East Indian Cuisine, listen to a little Ladysmith Black Mambazo, and read a little poetry (yeah, I just went there) and above all, remember where it came from.

Tangled Nest That Is Attraction

Much has been made of whether or not sexual orientation is a choice. The mainstream LGBTQ advocates insist that it is not, and that discrimination against queer folk is discriminating against something that is basic to a person’s biology. Anti-gay groups insist it is a choice, and an immoral one at that. A few people take the view that the question is irrelevant and that even if orientation was a choice, it does not make it okay to discriminate against LGBTQ people.

I won’t argue any of those points just yet. What is interesting to me right now is the stubborn cultural insistence to inextricably link love, sexuality, and romance.  Don’t mistake me for being so thick to suggest that there isn’t often a connection to these three. Some might say there is always, or at least usually a connection, though I wonder how much of that is because of our cultural expectations and not our emotional and physical needs.

Everything about attraction in our society’s view of it seems to be one more example of our need for either-or propositions: if you are attracted to someone you must love them, you must either be attracted to men or women, you cannot feel romantic love without sexual attraction and on and on. Even most people that accept the Kinsey scale cannot pull themselves out of the absolute primacy of monogamy.

It just doesn’t work like that, though. First off, as a pan sexual I don’t fit neatly on the Kinsey scale. That is not the only way either. I tend to be physically attracted to men, yet for whatever reason find myself romantically drawn to women. I know I am just a sample of one, and cannot be held as evidence, but I have had enough conversations to know that while I am statistically outside the norm, indeed even compared to others that are, I am not alone.

Furthermore I have known people that are all over the place on the romance-attraction spectrum. I have had the opportunity to know people that love so many people, so deeply, yet feel no need to tie themselves to anyone. I have known people that have bound themselves together in polyamorous relationships. I have known romantically monogamous couples that are not bothered by one or the other engaging in sexual relationships with others and I have known people like my parents: each others’ first and only love.

I don’t write all this to advocate for any or all views of love. I hope that you all accept others that engage in relationships different from yours, but if you don’t that isn’t a battle I am interested in fighting today. I write this so maybe you readers reflect on your own views of love and learn to be true to yourselves. I have struggled with this long myself and quite frankly I am not sure 100% what is right for me, but I sure won’t limit my options out of cultural habit.